Resonance

Late last night I fell over a repeat of a documentary about Girl with a One Track Mind. If you'll remember she got outed around the time I started blogging and I've followed her progress ever since. I haven't landed on her site recently, so this morning I sit here with a strong cup of coffee and my pink fluffy dressing gown and caught up on her gossip. She posted a link from Whatelydude's blog, who I'd never heard of. But it was one of those things that made me go 'hmmm...'

He has a philosophy on love, it's called the Five Projections of Love.

They are: Touch. Time. Words. Action. Presents.

In a nutshell, he says that we use these to project our feelings of love, usually favouring 3 or 4. Compatibility comes when our partners mirror these.

For example, our loved one gives flowers, chocolates and sparkly things. Ideally, we'd return the favour by giving something in return. It's when partners don't share the same ranking that disparity occurs. Such as a partner that needs words more than presents, or does actions and feels unappreciated when that expression of love is ignored or belittled.

This is an over-simplification of his philosophy, and I'm going to do some more research on it. But, on this Sunday morning, it just struck a chord, so I thought I would share.